[Background: Debbie's two children, Cailan and Hayden were recently separated against her wishes due to less than ideal family law and immigration rulings in Cayman Island, where Hayden now resides with his father. You can read more by visiting Debbie's Facebook Group or her blog.]
Yesterday, my daughter Cailan and I were in Toronto in a restaurant with friends and I took her to the washroom. When we came, out a little boy was walking around where my Cailan had been sitting and peeking around, obviously looking for her. His mom was in tow and said her little guy had been looking for Cailan and had been totally distracted by her throughout their meal.
Cailan looked at him while his mother said this and then just walked up and hugged him and said, "It's okay, here I am." Then she went and sat at our table.
When we left, she waved by to him and told us in the car that the boy was like her Hayden (my son) and that she misses Hayden, is sad. She said she liked to hug that boy like hugging Hayden.
I casually commented to my friends that there are times when I'd like a hug too, but society frowns upon me just walking up to someone who looks nice, or sad, or who reminds me of someone and hugging them. Of course, we all laughed at the idea of me going up to a man I don't know and hugging him, or anyone I don't know for that matter.
Thinking about it on our 4 hour drive home though, I realized that it is too bad we have to outgrow showing spontaneous love and affection.
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