Dear Rebecca

Thank you for having the courage to share your thoughts and your emotions with us. Your love shines through your words.

Many, if not most people find that the experience of bringing children into the world transforms them as a person. There is a sudden shift from a self-centred attitude to life to an 'other-centred' attitude. We shift from thinking about how we can serve ourselves to how we can provide for our children. The intense joy that most people get from this shift is a clear indicator that happiness does not come from getting but from giving. Many people suddenly realise this for the first time when they have children and it is a revelation for them. You will experience happiness in direct proportion to the amount of love you express. The warm way in which you talk about your relationship with John indicates that you have already experienced this.

When you yearn for children of your own, you are yearning for the opportunity to express love, because deep inside you know that is what you are here on Earth to do. Your pain arises because you are mistakenly concluding that if you do not have your own children, you will not have the opportunity to express the same amount of love as those who do, or you will not have the opportunity to experience love in the same way.

The very good news is that every moment of every day, every one of us has boundless opportunity to express love should we just recognise the opportunity. You do not need to save love up. Love is in endless supply. The more you express, the more you will have to express. You can be like a hose pipe through which love incessantly flows. All you have to do is make sure there are no kinks in the hose. Love your partner. Love your friends. Love their children. Love strangers. Love yourself. Love your life. Watch your friends' children, or any small children and see the boundless energy and enthusiasm for life, see the effortless unconditional love that they exhibit. They are a wonderful reminder to us all. You can reclaim that energy and enthusiasm in your own life. You were once like that too. You have just temporarily forgotten the immense power of the love that you hold inside you. Let it flow fully once more and your pain will dissolve.

Many people find that when they finally stop 'trying', stop focusing on what they don't have and focus once more on what they really do want deep inside, which is an opportunity to express wonderful love, then a miracle can happen.

Want not.
Wait not.
Love now
And allow.

Trust life to always bring you the opportunity to express your magnificent love, maybe not in the way you once expected, but in a way that is every bit as fulfilling.

Much love to you,

Happy Cow

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