I have an older sister...shes 62 I'm 57. I love my sister and she loves me. I am introvert and even more so when I am around her. She...is an extravert at all times....she can be kind and is sensitive mostly to animals.

Most of the time she is angry or complaining, sad, crying, or...can be incredibly delighted about something for a short while but mostly with her friends and not so much me. I feel like her therapist. I have to listen to all the crap. When I'm around her my chest hurts, my stomach hurts and I feel exhausted when I go about my own business.

If I don't agree with her...because I do have my own thoughts...she becomes angry that I don't back her up. For some reason having a relationship with her feels like a full part time job!...one that has not much of a payoff. I feel badly that I cannot keep pace with her lifestyle and that in some way I must be a disappointment to her as a sister...since I never seem to understand her plight or have enough pity for any given situation.

I feel lost as to how to handle her. I want to run away from her when I see her coming. I worry for her. I know she's bad for my health.

I need options!

Audrey

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