Imagine for a moment that you have a friend who has diabetes. The type which means that they have to regularly take insulin. Now imagine that friend keeps coming up to you and insisting that you need to take insulin too. Even though you are perfectly healthy in the pancreas department, they still insist on regularly trying to get you to inject yourself with a dose of their insulin. That might get a little bit irritating, right?
Now imagine the following conversation taking place:-
"Come here, Swifty, I want to give you a hug."
"No thanks, I am fine. I do not need a hug. Thanks for offering, though."
"Oh, come on! You know you want to, really. You English, you are so afraid of physical intimacy. Come on. Share some love with me."
"No thanks. I am not afraid of physical intimacy at all. It happens sometimes, not other times. Being unconditionally happy, it doesn't matter much either way. Right now I don't seem to feel like it. Love is all around us all the time. There is no need to engage in any particular act to share that."
"Oh, come on, loosen up a bit. You know you want to hug me really. Come on. It is free! Live a little!"
"All of Life is free and intimate. I am living all of it, not just a little of it."
Hug Pushers!! Before you go out pushing your hugs today, ask yourself who it is you are really trying to 'fix'. Which side of this conversation appears needy? Which appears independent and free?
"And the more she tried to fix the world, the more she felt utterly broken."
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