The language a person habitually uses is a window into their mind, their psychology and their personality. Next time you are with someone who you regard as being a very happy person, take a few minutes to really listen to how they talk, particularly the adjectives they use regularly. Do the same with someone who you consider to be generally rather downbeat and notice the striking difference.
Some may argue that this is obviously going to happen. This person is happy and therefore they are obviously going to use words which reflect that happiness. The other person is unhappy and they are going to use words which reflect that. I would like to suggest the possibility that it is in fact the other way round. Perhaps the happy person is happy because they make a habit of using positive, enthusiastic and loving language regularly. Perhaps the unhappy person is unhappy because they use negative, apathetic and judgmental words regularly.
If my theory is correct, it means that we can take a step towards a more joyful life simply by watching and changing our language habits.
Below is a list of some of the words which I have noticed the most obviously happy people I know use regularly in their every day speech.
If you want to put my theory to the test, choose one of these words (preferably one that you do not currently use regularly) and commit to using it 10 times a day for a week. You can either do this while talking out loud, or while thinking thoughts to yourself. You must try to use the word with genuine feeling (rather than sarcasm). What this exercise does is gets you to change your focus. You will have to deliberately look for some things in your day that warrant the use of the word you have committed to using. When we aren't feeling so grand, it is easy for us to overlook all the wonderful things that are all around us every day. It is easy to take for granted how fantastic some of the luxuries of living in a modern society. It is easy to forget to express our love to loved ones and friends.
If you commit to changing your language in this way, soon it can become a habit and you will have shifted your perspective permanently. It may sound too simple, but my guess is that if you put some effort into this very simple exercise, your life will never be quite the same!
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