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where you will find more 'Manifestation Myths', as well as many other uplifting, wise, wonderful and thought-provoking articles written by Jodene and her co-facilitator Greg.]
I'm very determined to work hard on mending some relationships in my life, but am battling with the concept of unconditional love?
The spiritual concept of unconditional love has been made out to be a form of love that is not reachable to us as human beings. I was once told that the closest you could come to loving unconditionally was the way you would love your pets. Why would we be given a goal that would be so unreachable? The truth is, it's not unreachable at all.
Instead of the concept being so foreign, it is actually as simple as the very words that define it - love without condition. The problem, however, is that the majority of us fall in love with the potential of someone or try and love family, friends and the neighbour in that light. Potential is dangerous and is the only thing that trips up your ability to love unconditionally. As you know my favourite question is "What if nothing changes?". Only once you are able to fall in love with or simply love someone without expecting anything to change ... only then are you able to love unconditionally. There's no greater love than that. There is no magical feeling that should wash over you when you finally learn how to love ... it should simply be a feeling of contentment. No matter who or what that person is, no matter how wonderful you think they could be if they were a little tidier, worked a little harder, tried to fulfil their dreams with a little more gusto - the second you do that ... unconditional love falls away. But when you would change nothing and love someone for who they are, without condition (even if the condition could make them a better person in your perception) ... only then do you experience the joy of unconditional love.
Parents, siblings, spouses ... it applies to us all. Loving your children despite their lack of enthusiasm to play the sport or achieve the marks. Loving your spouse despite their ability to show their affection for you any more than they already do.
To love unconditionally ask yourself "what if nothing changes?" and if that leaves a hollow in your being ... recalculate your expectations. But DO NOT expect them to change.
[This article was kindly shared with us by Happy Cow's good friend Jodene. You can view the original article
on Jodene's website here. Happy Cow highly recommends having a browse around Jodene's beautiful and shiny website,
where you will find more 'Manifestation Myths', as well as many other uplifting, wise, wonderful and thought-provoking articles written by Jodene and her co-facilitator Greg.]
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